Roberts What's Inside Matters

1. Auflage 2019
ISBN: 978-1-5439-7188-0
Verlag: BookBaby
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: PC/MAC/eReader/Tablet/DL/kein Kopierschutz

E-Book, Englisch, 124 Seiten

Do you ever feel overwhelmed with self-doubt? Are you lacking confidence and self-esteem? Don't worry, you are not alone. This book is a self-help guide to living a better and more meaningful life. It will help you to make more sense of the world, giving you numerous examples of how to go about it. Global commercialisation affects us all. In a society that doesn't seem to care or take responsibility for what is real anymore, it is so important to be YOU. Your life has a purpose. The book touches on my own personal struggles with body dysmorphia. On the outside I look like a confident businesswoman, but underneath I often feel insecure and inadequate. Our inner-critic (I even have a name for mine) has a massive effect on our health, well-being and performance. It's important that we recognise this, before any problems develop. Do you ever feel brainwashed and disillusioned with the media, including social media? Are you confused by so many expectations to have the perfect body or lifestyle? We need to stop and consider the inside of a person, rather than automatically judging them on physical appearance. What's inside a person really matters and has great value. Health, happiness, mind-set and positive attitude is fundamental. Life is complicated enough, without all this extra pressure. This book is packed with tips on ways to reconnect with family, friends and nature. You will soon recognise what's important in life and hopefully what's not. Self-awareness is the antidote to all this conditioning.

Autoren/Hrsg.

Roberts, Hazel

Leseproben

Chapter One Being You in a Fake World From time to time, you might be tempted to ask yourself, ‘Do I honestly fit in? Is there room for me in this world?’ I have done it myself, many times. Let me stop you there. Well, of course you fit in and of course there is room for you, and for that matter, what’s inside your head and your heart means so much more than you may think it does. I need to grab your attention and explain just how precious and important you are. A lot of this boils down to you having self-belief and confidence. These are not easy things to measure, and they vary a lot from person to person. It is not a straightforward thing to teach, either – for example, it depends on how much self-confidence you have already. Once you have analysed the amount you think you have, I can demonstrate new ways in which to grow it. A huge part of being happy, confident and content is loving and accepting who you are. As I have aged, it has become clear to me just how vulnerable and fragile the individuals within our society are becoming. Things are constantly changing, and they are so uncertain, I wonder at times which way we are heading. I don’t think anybody really knows. As the world continues to waver, becoming more unstable and fake, I believe that it is vital for us as human beings to feel enlightened and grounded; we need a sense of belonging, reality, purpose and awareness. The world’s population has deeply held differences, but we can still have mutual respect and empathy for one another. If we want our communities to be better places to live in for our families and children, then we need to take some action ourselves. We shouldn’t be relying on society to do it. Courageous individuals, everyday people like you and me, can make a difference, and words of encouragement can change the future by causing a ripple effect, a bit like throwing a stone into a still millpond. It is important to be conscious of how other people, including our leaders, dictate and control our lives, and it’s essential that we are aware of the sheer power they have, (not necessarily the best power.) Before we discuss this further, maybe just stop for a few seconds, take a deep breath and clear your mind. I will then lift the lid on what I believe to be society’s mass cover-up. This may be a shock, but at least that way we can take a quick glimpse underneath the sugar candy coating that our phoney world of commercialisation, advertising and media has created. It’s like a mask, made from papier mâché, with layer after layer of fabrication, distorting and carefully covering up what is actually going on in the lives of real people. What a revelation… and as we investigate a little further, peeling away a few more layers, the barefaced truth and the magnitude of this brilliant disguise is exposed. It’s tempting to slam the lid straight back down, leaving the problem for another time, or for someone else to solve – but who is that someone? I am asking you, as well as asking myself, shouldn’t we all be getting involved in helping to put right this global mess? Are we in denial? It’s not healthy to carry on living like this, is it? Do we push the lid back down, cover everything up again, add a bit of glitter and some sparkles, then leave it all for another generation? Or do we tackle it head-on? This is just one of the home truths which I think the public needs to face up to, in today’s crazy, fake world. I am not writing this to upset you or to sound depressing and negative. I simply want to highlight awareness of what is happening, right under our noses. We are somehow too busy to even notice. In my opinion, some of these problems stem from how we have been raised from childhood, dreaming our lives away and being continuously exploited by advertising and the media. If we found out at an earlier age that life is not a box of chocolates or a sweet bed of roses (some do find that out, of course), our later lives might not be such a shock and disappointment. It’s okay to have dreams; they are an important part of mapping out and planning our future. However, many other things are equally important; it’s not just about how we look and what we own. If only our eyes saw souls, instead of ‘bodies’, how different the world would be. It would be beneficial to teach younger children things like self-belief and awareness, positive attitude, tolerance and well-being. All these things are very important for survival, as well as how to live alongside other human beings with empathy and dignity. The harsh reality is that kids need to know how to be tougher, and to learn much better coping mechanisms. Money and health should be addressed too, as well as how to deal with challenges, obstacles and difficulties. Let’s not pretend that there will be no hardships. (I do acknowledge that some people are doing these things already.) If young people are dreaming their days away, or perhaps thinking that the world owes them a living, then they won’t get very far. Some kids are not as fortunate as others, and don’t always get the support they need at a young age; they may be born into a difficult situation. All the more reason to find something or someone to believe in, remembering to start with yourself. Grasping the value of self-worth is crucial. When you have it and feel strong and prepared inside, nobody can make you feel meaningless. This will be your comfort blanket through life (we all need one of those). When you feel proud of yourself, safe in the knowledge that you have a sense of responsibility and integrity, you will feel happier and more secure. There is far too much sadness in the world right now. In many ways we have become too materialistic, yet for many reasons we often think we don’t have enough. Mindset is also extremely powerful, sometimes getting overlooked. A person’s general outlook on life has a significant effect on their ability to succeed or fail. Thoughts control our feelings, and subsequently feelings and emotions control our behaviour. Emotions and attitude can have a direct effect on how reality unfolds. Instead of focusing on reality, we tend to dwell on insignificant things such as vanity and body image. These subjects can take complete control of our thought processes. Why do we obsess over other people’s appearance, body shape or size? Surely, comparing ourselves to others is damaging and unhealthy? Physical appearance is far too high up the list, in my opinion. It undoubtedly dominates our first take on others. When we meet another human being, we automatically scan our eyes up and down their body and face, our brains programmed to judge within an instant. Why can’t we stop this robotic mind-set, think again and see a little further than the outer packaging? We constantly and obsessively analyse each other. How rude, shallow and sad. It would be much kinder to care about the inside of that human. The population continues with this vanity fiasco. Many are terrified of being labelled as boring or plain, going to great lengths to achieve the perfect image. There is so much needless damage being done. It is a perfect example of mass corruption at its worst – completely false on so many levels. There is so much more to life other than just appearance. This will become clearer as the book goes on. Impressionable minds are being manipulated (starting from a very early age) and slowly becoming polluted by advertising, imagery and peer pressure. Every single day, our young people are being influenced, without us realising. Unfortunately, we are under a spell, a manufactured illusion. This problem was gradually beginning to raise its ugly head when I was a teenager, but now it has sadly reached epidemic proportions. Social media is having a catastrophic effect on young people’s mental health and well-being. I am convinced that the vast majority of people are not at all happy with the way things are heading. Some people are at breaking point with it all, but still, nobody seems willing to challenge the system. Children need to know the difference between what’s real and what’s fake. Many parts of the world are obsessed with body image and, in particular, cosmetic surgery. To be brutally honest, in many cases it is a complete waste of time, money and energy. It’s safe to say that ‘body image’ and first impressions dominate our thought processes every single minute of every day. I guess you knew that already. You are judged on what you are wearing. Is your hair acceptable, are your teeth white enough, have you got a slim waist, do you fit in, do you have lots of friends or followers on social media, or, to be quite frank, how does your bottom measure up? For goodness’ sake, can someone tell me what’s going on here – why are we still putting up with all this s…? Does it matter if you are rear of the year? Does it matter if you don’t have gigantic breasts? What if you don’t fit into any of these categories? What if you already struggle with an inferiority complex? Why should you be made to feel inadequate? We all know that this goes on, but why is it honestly that important? Does anybody actually care or spare a thought about just how insecure individuals are feeling right now? I mean really vulnerable, unhappy and broken… It’s no wonder many are physically and mentally scarred and damaged. It’s easy to see why vulnerable and sensitive people turn to self-harming, misuse of prescription drugs (are we a nation on anti-depressant pills?) or simply drinking...