Pucelik / McBee / Wilkins Reality Wars

Disassociated States Therapy
1. Auflage 2024
ISBN: 978-3-7597-1091-8
Verlag: BoD - Books on Demand
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: 6 - ePub Watermark

E-Book, Englisch, 334 Seiten

The beginning of Neuro - Linguistic - Programming lies in "Meta Foundations" and the linguistic magic founded, researched and taught by Frank Pucelik, Richard Bandler and John Grinder in Kresge College, Santa Cruz in the 70`s. This book is the clinical and acedemic result of the 7 year Research programm run by Pucelik and his group of assistants who he still calls "the kids." It is unique in its entirety and covers all Meta Foundations that Pucelik still uses in his work and teaches his therapists and counsellors. Anybody working in the field of Psychotherapy, Coaching or Counselling should read this book and be able to understand how the human mind works, the changing force of Linguistics and the source of NLP. The book is visually enhanced with the Art of Ray Wilkins who is also a wellknown therapist and coach. Frank Pucelik now lives and works in Odessa, Ukraine where he trains Therapists and Counsellors in Trauma and PTSD.

Frank Pucelik is one of the three founders of Neuro Linguistic Programming. He has founded centers for Youth Addiction and PTSD in the United States and Ukraine. He now lives and works in Odessa, Ukraine where he trains Coaches and Counsellors to work with Veteran soldiers and their Familiies suffering from Trauma and PTSD.

Autoren/Hrsg.

Pucelik, Frank

McBee, John

Wilkins, Ray

Leseproben

PART I
CHAPTER THREE.
THE FABRIC OF REALITY, SLEIGHT OF MIND: HOW WE CREATE TRUTH.
We do not act directly upon our sensory experience, but upon what we re-present to ourselves. We act not directly upon the world, but upon our model of the world. "Laws as such do not make people better," said Nasrudin to the King, "They must practice certain things, in order to become attuned to inner truth. This form of truth resembles apparent truth only slightly." The King decided that he could, and would, make people observe the truth. He could make them practice truthfulness. His city was entered by a bridge. On this he built a gallows. The following day, when the gates were opened at dawn, the Captain of the Guard was stationed with a squad of troops to examine all who entered. An announcement was made. "Everyone will be questioned. If he tells the truth, he will be allowed to enter. If he lies, he will be hanged." Nasrudin stepped forward. "Where are you going?" "I am on my way," said Nasrudin slowly, "to be hanged." "We don't believe you!" "Very well, if I have told a lie, hang me!" "But if we hang you for lying, we will have made what you said come true?" "That's right, Now you know what the truth is, YOUR truth!" (The Exploits of the Incomparable Mulla Nasrudin by Idries Shah) In order to assist in changing someone's behavior you need to change the way he is representing his experience to himself. We construct models of the world through the process of abstraction (Chap 8). The process of abstraction depends upon processes people use to construct their models of the world. Each of these processes have specific sensory-based indicators that can be detected. By learning to package our communication in ways that cooperate with his models of the world, we can more effectively assist him in changing. The whole focus of Part II is not just to describe how a person creates a model of the world, but in giving you precise indicators that can be detected and hence, learned. An excellent understanding of the power of this observational ability can be found in the world of fiction. Sherlock Holmes is credited with being one of the most skillful observers in all of literature. Even though he is noted for his impeccable reasoning ability, it is his effective use of his senses, his observation skills, that makes possible his relentless reasoning. In the "Adventure of the Cardboard Box," Mr. Holmes eloquently describes the observation process in an encounter with Dr. Watson! Finding that Holmes was too absorbed for conversation I had tossed aside the barren paper and leaning back in my chair, I fell into a brown study. Suddenly my companion's voice broke in upon my thoughts. "You are right, Watson," said he. "It does seem a most preposterous way of settling a dispute." "Most preposterous!" I exclaimed, and then suddenly realizing how he had echoed the innermost thought of my soul, I sat up in my chair and stared at him in blank amazement. "What is this, Holmes?" I cried. "This is beyond anything which I ever could have imagined." He laughed heartily at my perplexity. "You remember," said he, "that some little time ago when I read you the passage in one of Poe's sketches in which a close reasoner follows the unspoken thoughts of his companion, you were inclined to treat the matter as a mere tour-de-force of the author. On my remarking that I was constantly in the habit of doing the same thing you expressed incredulity." "Oh, no!" "Perhaps not with your tongue, my dear Watson, but certainly with your eyebrows. So when I saw you throw down your paper and enter upon a train of thought, I was very happy to have the opportunity of reading it off, and eventually of breaking into it, as a proof that I had been in rapport with you." But, I was still far from satisfied."In the example which you read to me," said I, "the reasoner drew his conclusions from the actions of the man whom he observed. If I remember rightly, he stumbled over a heap of stones, looked up at the stars and so on. But I have been seated quietly in my chair, and what clues can I have given you?" "You do yourself an injustice. The facial features are given to man as the means by which he shall express his emotions,and yours are faithful servants." "Do you mean to say that you read my train of thoughts from my facial features?" "Your facial features, and especially your eyes. Perhaps you cannot yourself recall how your reverie commenced?" "No, I cannot." "Then I will tell you. After throwing down your paper,which was the action which drew my attention to you in the first place, you sat for half a minute with a vacant expression.Then your eyes fixed themselves upon your newly framed picture of General Gordon, and I saw by the alteration in your face that a train of thought had been started. But it did not lead very far.Your eyes flashed across to the unframed portrait of Henry Ward Beecher which stands upon the top of your books.You then glanced up at the wall, and of course your meaning was obvious. You were thinking that if the portrait were framed, it would just cover that bare space and correspond with Gordon's picture over there." "You have followed me wonderfully!" I exclaimed. "So far I could hardly have gone astray. But now your thoughts went back to Beecher, and you looked hard across as if you were studying the character in his features. Then your eyes ceased to pucker, but you continued to look across, and your face was thoughtful. You were recalling the incidents of Beecher's career. I was well aware that you could not do this without thinking of the mission which he undertook on behalf of the North at the time of the Civil War, for I remember your expressing your passionate indignation at the way in which he was received by the more turbulent of our people.You felt so strongly about it, that I knew you could not think of Beecher without thinking of that also. When a moment later I saw your eyes had now turned to the Civil War, and when I observed that your lips were set, your eyes sparkled, and your hands clenched, I was positive that you were indeed thinking of the gallantry which was shown by both sides in that desperate struggle.But then, again, your face grew sadder, you shook your head.You were dwelling upon the sadness and horror and useless-waste of life. Your right hand stole towards your own old wound and a smile quivered on your lips, which showed me that the ridiculous side of this method of settling international arguments had forced itself upon your mind. At this point I agreed with you that it was preposter-ous,and was glad to find that all my deductions had been correct. "Absolutely!" said I. "And now that you have explained it, I confess that I am as amazed as before." "It was very superficial, my dear Watson, I assure you." (PP. 201-202; The Original Illustrated Sherlock Holmes.) Seeing instantly the make-up of a person's thinking, deducing accurately the chain of thoughts that have taken place, knowing how a person creates his problems, accurately inferring the nature of an individual's problems and strengths from a brief observation; this is the adventure found in sleight of mind. When walking down the street and seeing a couple having an angry interchange, can you detect how they were able to be angry with each other without personally knowing these people? Is it then possible to talk with clients for a short period of time and discover how they systematically are creating their depression, anxiety, or any other of the numerous emotional problems people experience? We affirm that each of the above abilities is possible.The skill that gifted observers use to detect this type of information is not a form of intuition that is somehow genetically based. Rather, skillful observation is based upon sensory-based cues that can be detected. As such, it is possible to train others in these gifts of observation. In addition to being able to gather information initially about how a person is creating his problems, an even greater benefit comes from careful observation. You will be able to have ongoing feedback about how a person is responding at each moment as you are communicating with him. The effect of this ability is powerful: You will be able to detect instantly how effective you have been and able to change your approach if you are not being effective. This eliminates the need to have to wait a week or a month in order to find out if the therapeutic intervention you employed was successful. All of the information needed in order to have dynamic and pervasive effect upon a client will be there in front of your eyes and ears. The precise information presented in Part II is based on the understanding that we process information non-verbally as well as verbally and that there are systematic or patterned processes which are used. By understanding how a person is using his modeling skills and knowing what effective uses of these modeling skills are, it will be possible to quickly determine a change program that can be used in a precise and dynamic way. With these skills of observation, you can truly understand how "the features are given to man as the means by which he shall express his emotions." Installing Sleight of Mind Skills:
There is no substitute for clean, active sensory channels for observation. By learning to make consistent distinctions between what is offered from outside of...