Gabriel Stepping Into Your Becoming

Leadership Principles for Embracing Change and Achieving Self Mastery
1. Auflage 2016
ISBN: 978-1-4835-6179-0
Verlag: Aviva Publishing
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: Adobe DRM (»Systemvoraussetzungen)

E-Book, Englisch, 200 Seiten

Has that little voice in your head ever said, 'It's now time to step into your becoming?' Do you feel it's time to own and transition into your authentic powerful self? Are you ready to stop looking for something outside yourself and start becoming the person you wanted others to be for you?

Autoren/Hrsg.

Gabriel, Nicole

Leseproben

Chapter 1 Get On With It Already! “As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears.” —Rumi Are you tired of talking about your wounds, waiting for something great to happen that never does, or living in a continuous story of “I don’t knows” or “only ifs”? Have you thought about your optimal self at a time far off in the future but not been able to see that person here and now? Have you realized that the time is now? Have you realized that your past experiences don’t break you but only make you stronger? Stepping into your becoming is not just a pie-eyed idea about what could be some day, but what can be here and now. Your becoming is in process right now as we speak. It is what you will be tomorrow based on what you do today. It’s your authentic, powerful self. If you strive to be the best person you can be, then it starts today with a choice. The choice may be to let go of past wounds, but it might also be simply to own your essence, your true self. It may begin with the idea that, ultimately, God is the doer of everything and is holding you in every breath, but it continues with conscious choices on how to live your life. You get to decide what you believe in and what’s important to you and, through your awareness and reflection of self and other, transformation occurs. But you might be also thinking that in order to make all these choices, you must begin by also making a change. Perhaps the changes have already been made for you and you’re now picking up the pieces, or perhaps you are choosing to do something different. Either way, here we are. So let’s start talking a bit more about what to do about it. Coping with Change Your wounds and past experiences have forever changed you; you will never be the same person you once were. The people in your life may never be the same either. Be it death, a job change, a divorce, or even sending your child off to college—nothing was ever meant to stay the same. The nature of our world is change. But how can you put your chin up and get on with life after devastating changes occur? How do you shake the emotions and break from being haunted by your past? If you are asking these questions, then it is likely you are taking notice of the change(s) in your life already and seeking solutions. All change happens for a greater purpose than we are aware of at the time so it’s a great idea to have faith in the greater plan. If you are like me—tired of talking about past wounds and ready to move on with a joyous life—then let’s jump right in with what to do when change happens. It can be challenging to move past coping and fighting the change, and to learn to adjust your thinking. But it’s important not to deny the change or to try to run or hide from it. It’s a good idea to face your feelings about the change in your life, especially when the change appears to be out of your control. Move yourself past being the victim and asking “Why me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?” Stop telling yourself, “It isn’t fair.” Figure out what your fears or worries are. This can take time and reflection. You don’t have to be a victim even when you are not in control of the change that happened in your life. When dealing with change, it’s important to realize it’s a process. Below are a few tips about how to deal with change. Strategies for Coping with Change: 1.   Accept the change. 2.   Reflect on changes you’ve coped with in your life that you’ve survived and thrived through. 3.   Keep a journal. 4.   Identify what can and cannot be controlled in the situation. 5.   Take care of yourself with healthy new habits. Start new diet or exercise regimes. 6.   Take it one day at a time. 7.   Remind yourself of prior successes and don’t let negativity affect your confidence. 8.   Find a mentor. Seek help and support from others. It’s a big world and many others have survived something similar. You are not alone. 9.   Learn to be an optimist. 10. Change your vibration. (I will talk a bit more about this as we go.) EXERCISE: Begin noting your feelings and experiences in a journal. Writing is a great way to release your feelings, emotions, and thoughts; it is also a great way to reflect on your progress as you move through change. Write about your feelings. Reflect on what you are rejecting or accepting about the change and ask yourself, “What am I going to do about it?” Note your choices in your journal and reflect later on the shifts in your thinking. Make a list of your positive thoughts that build bridges to new possibilities and opportunities, and note your negative thoughts that block your ability to get there. Find ways to adapt to your new life and begin to welcome the change as a new opportunity. Keep a record of the choices you make and the attitudes and thoughts you have about them. Try to find ways to be grateful for the changes. Have you been freed after years of taking care of a sick loved one? Liberated from a dead-end job? Are you now available to meet the love of your life? To move? What about the change has made an improvement in your life? Coping with Loss I struggled with loss and the deaths of my loved ones. Losing a loved one can be a very traumatic time, and how you cope is a very personal experience. I knew all the losses and changes in my life were meant to be and had a purpose, but what was that purpose? My hairy children (my Chinese Shar Pei dogs) have been among the most important relationships in my life. As I detailed in my earlier book, Finding Your Inner Truth, I experienced the loss of five of them in a row, an experience that I found devastating. I had to learn how to cope with this grief when other people could not seem to understand how the losses of “pets” could send me spiraling into such a dark place. At the end of that period, I found myself starting my new life in Maui, Hawaii with my fiance, Patrick, but Shiitake, my nearly six-year-old Chinese Shar Pei, had been diagnosed with lymphoma just ten days before I moved, so I spent every waking moment worrying about her and her care. She was my child, not my dog, and the only thing familiar about my new life in Maui was her presence. I also spent every last dollar I had to try to heal her, then begged people for more. The only new friends I made for the first eight months on Maui were those at the veterinary clinic. I was there at least once a week. Shiitake consumed my thoughts so much that I didn’t want to plan a wedding or pretend I was enjoying what was supposed to be our island paradise. It was all I could do to go through the motions of existing and trying to make peace with God’s plan to take my best friend from me. I knew that Shiitake’s death was a part of God’s plan. I had just spent the last decade of my life journeying through spiritual teachings geared toward helping me with the most traumatic times of my life, so I was supposed to be in a better place of acceptance with it. I was certainly more educated about the process of death. After years of death and transformation, I had new tools and a new perspective. I fought the idea of another loss for me and a going home for her. I knew the steps to go through both physically and spiritually, but psychically, my senses went into their normal mode—opening up to everything! In my human-ness, I was denying her passing, angry about it, and trying an all out bargaining campaign with God to keep her here. I was depressed for months about her sickness, especially since I saw myself as a powerful healer, and I thought I should have been able to help her. I had traveled the world learning healing techniques (working with Shaman healers all over Central America), but nothing I had learned worked for her. I even believed I had killed her because I gave her two rounds of rabies shots to move her to Hawaii; I feared that had triggered the onset of her lymphoma. I felt as if I had chosen Maui over her, which made it very hard to be on the island. However, my other dog, Sushi, had gone through the same vaccinations and was still with me, so that somewhat lifted the blame from my shoulders. But I still couldn’t accept that it was Shiitake’s time to leave, and I wondered what I could have done differently. She was not quite six years old, so I felt it was too early to lose her. I understood her life here was temporary, but couldn’t the timing have been better? Shiitake represented all that remained of my past back in Michigan, including my last attempt to heal my broken marriage before I met Patrick and moved west. She was the only constant amid the storm that was my life from 2006 until 2012. By comparison, twelve-year-old Sushi was no longer the same dog she was when younger; she no longer interacted...